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Showing posts with label Problem - Family. Show all posts

Praying for our loved ones to be saved

 
"God is our loving Father. He does not desire that any man perish, and He will fight to save us, even to the moment of our death."
 
A Dream of a Dying Man
A few years ago, I had a dream in which I found myself inside the mind of a dying man. The man had been in a coma for some time; his family had been praying, but they did not know whether or not he had accepted Christ. All they were sure of is that, throughout his life, he had resisted their efforts to lead him to Christ.

In the dream, I became so acutely aware of the man's state of mind that his thoughts, feelings, and struggles almost seemed my own. Although his eyes were nearly closed and his vision clouded, he could see his loved ones at his bedside. I watched as he tried to reach toward his family, but outwardly his arm never lifted.

Perceiving his thoughts, I heard him speak their names, but no sound whispered through his lips. A loved one holding his hand asked, "If you hear me, squeeze." He heard and pressed his fingers against hers, but no movement was seen; his hand clearly remained limp. He was conscious; he could hear their prayers, and he felt the warmth of their kisses on his face, but he was perfectly incapable of responding.

The pride and isolation that had, throughout his life, stood guard over his heart were gone. A physical catastrophe had overtaken him. Death approached, and he knew he was unprepared for eternity. Submerged beneath his placid exterior, a war had raged for his soul, which the Lord won. Subdued by the relentlessness of God's love, he was finally at peace. It was during his time in the hospital that he had silently prayed and accepted Christ as his Savior. I was watching his last effort to tell them as life ebbed out of his body.

Suddenly, monitoring alarms ripped through the muffled silence of the room. His heart beat one last time, and I found myself looking down at the body of a man who had just died. The room was buzzing with nurses, while his family huddled in a corner, grieving. The idea of their loved one dying without receiving Christ was more devastating than the reality of death itself. I stirred and then woke. Yet, just as I left the dream, the Lord spoke to my heart, "Tell them he's with Me."

God is Good
Although some time has passed since I first had this dream, I am increasingly aware that many of God's people carry a deep abiding heartache concerning the death of an unsaved loved one. Obviously, this dream does not apply to all, but there are some for whom this experience is divinely directed. Thus, I submit this to you in a general sense, because the Holy Spirit has assured me He will bear witness to your heart.

I have felt an urgency to pass this dream onto those of you who this applies to. I am convinced that the Lord has an important work for you. However, the enemy has used this unresolved loss to sow doubt into your soul. Not only are you troubled about your deceased loved one, but you have doubts about God's love as well as the power of prayer. As a result, your confidence in God has diminished. Yet, it is precisely at this time that you need to stand without doubt for other members of your family.

Beloved, though there are many questions about the mysteries of life, we must not let the unknown obscure the face of the known. God is good. We know God loves us because He sent His Son to die for our sins. Indeed, Jesus said, "He who has seen Me has seen the Father" (John 14:9). When we look at Christ, we see God, and we know that God cares and He is good.

Additionally, some of us have lost loved ones in sudden tragedies, where they seemingly had no time to repent or turn to God. Let me remind you of those who have faced near-death experiences and tell of seeing their "life flash before (their) eyes." They say that the progressive movement of time almost stopped. I believe that, even in what seemed like a "sudden" death, time itself slowed to a crawl. There apparently was enough time in this altered state to see and ponder one's life--and to make a decision or even call upon the name of the Lord.

In spite of what we do not know about the mysteries of life, one thing remains eternally true: God is our loving Father. He does not desire that any man perish, and He will fight to save us, even to the moment of our death. Let us, therefore, cast our burdens upon the Lord, for He genuinely cares for us. And let us again run with endurance the race set before us, for He has promised, "the people who were sitting in darkness saw a great light, and those who were sitting in the...shadow of death, upon them a light dawned" (Matthew 4:16).

Let's Pray:
"Lord Jesus, thank You for dying for my sins. Lord, there are many issues I do not know, but I do know that You are good. Those things I do not understand, I give to You. I trust You with my life and I put in Your hands the care of those I love."
FRANCIS FRANGIPANE MINISTRIES by Francis Frangipane © 2007. All rights reserved. (Please include this line to forward the message).
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How to Treat One Another

Jesus explained the basis for strong relationships: He said that in everything, we should treat others the way we want to be treated.
 
When you think about your friends, relatives, and associates, do you see any of the following characteristics of a strong relationship?
 - Enjoyment and satisfaction.
 - Loyalty.
 - Genuine concern for the other person's welfare.  
 - Truthfulness.
 - Prayer support.
 - A desire for the best for the other person.
 - Protection of each other from emotional, physical, or spiritual harm.
 - Forgiveness.
 - Encouragement.
 - Support.
 - Generosity.
 - Respect and honor.
 - Acceptance of the other person for who he or she is.

Most of us would have to say we don't have all of these characteristics in every relationship. But is there a single quality that you would not want someone to display toward you? Do you have relationship problems in your marriage? With your children? With your employer or employees? At church or in your neighborhood?

Jesus made the solution clear. It is a command that we treat others as we want to be treated. It takes work and prayer, but God always gives us the resources to be obedient.

Are you willing to work at building strong relationships? Remember that Jesus commanded it, and therefore obedience is not optional. Ask God to give you the patience and wisdom you'll need to mend or strengthen the relationships in your life.

In Touch Daily Devotional by Dr. Charles Stanley © 2004. All rights reserved. (Please include this line to forward the message).

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Humility in Relationships

 
All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." (1 Peter 5:5b)

I'll never forget the first time I discovered what a feeling was. It was in my early forties. Surely not! you may be thinking. Yes, it is true. Since then, I have discovered many men still live in this condition. It took an older mentor to help me understand the difference between information and a feeling. Wives are frustrated because their husbands share information, but not their feelings. They want to know what is going on inside their man. The fact is, most men have not been taught to identify feelings, much less how to share them. It is something that men must learn to do because it is not a natural trait. If they do share their feelings, society often portrays them as weak. No man willingly wants to be portrayed as weak.

In order to become an effective friend and leader, one must learn to be vulnerable with others and develop an ability to share feelings. It is a vital step to becoming a real person with whom others can connect emotionally. This is not easy to do if your parents did not teach you to share your emotional life with others. Emotional vulnerability is especially hard for men. Author Dr. Larry Crabb states,

Men who as boys felt neglected by their dads often remain distant from their own children. The sins of fathers are passed on to children, often through the dynamic of self-protection. It hurts to be neglected, and it creates questions about our value to others. So to avoid feeling the sting of further rejection, we refuse to give that part of ourselves we fear might once again be received with indifference. When our approach to life revolves around discipline, commitment, and knowledge [which the Greek influence teaches us] but runs from feeling the hurt of unmet longings that come from a lack of deeper relationships, then our efforts to love will be marked more by required action than by liberating passion. We will be known as reliable, but not involved. Honest friends will report that they enjoy being with us, but have trouble feeling close. Even our best friends (including spouses) will feel guarded around us, a little tense and vaguely distant. It's not uncommon for Christian leaders to have no real friends. [Larry Crabb, Inside Out (Colorado Springs, Colorado: Navpress, n.d.), 98-99.]

If this describes you, why not begin on a new journey of opening up your life to others in a way that others can see who you really are? It might be scary at first, but as you grow in this area, you will find new freedom in your life. Then, others will more readily connect with you.

TODAY GOD IS FIRST by Os Hillman © 2001 - 2007. All rights reserved. Click here for personal prayer and counsel. (Please include this line to forward the message).
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In His Dreams

"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life."(Proverbs 31:10-12, NKJ)
My mom and dad separated when I was a child, so I lacked the godly example of marriage. Being the oldest child I naturally took on an independent mindset. These two factors added together equaled a negative value in my natural tendencies toward marriage.  My learning curve took years.  . .

I loved my husband, but I didn't respect all of his ideas, notions, and requests. I had my own ideas of how things should be and I thought I was right, naturally.

Overall we had a good marriage, but it wasn't what it should be until, one day after reading the Bible God led me to make a decision that tamed my independent mindset. I knew I needed to submit to Dale's role as the spiritual leader in our home, and to respect all of his thoughts all the time.

Our marriage started changing after that day. He would share what he thought the kids needed to do about school or church and my first impulse was to say, "Are you kidding, no way!" But I wouldn't say a word, I would bite my tongue and receive his words and follow his leading. Amazing things started to happen, he would be right! Many times over the past years, I haven't agreed with his decisions but I followed him anyway, and the outcome has always been the same, God is leading him and I am honored to follow such a man of God.

I am in awe of my husband, he is everything that a woman could ever dream of, and it is my desire to be everything that he dreams of and more! If he wants to wake up before my biological alarm goes off and needs a few kisses I just pray that God will give me the ability to rise up and be what he needs. I want to serve him in every possible way. I want to make his favorite meals and dress the way he wants me to and enjoy the same things he does.

Sometimes when Dale walks by me my heart will skip a beat, you know what I mean, like when you're in passionate love.  Every time I look at him I'm enthralled, doesn't that sound like a magic love potion has been poured out on me? I think it has, when you honor your husband in every way at home, in public, in your conversations that he doesn't know about, God will pour out this passionate love and you will be swept away by him.

Make a conscious decision to honor your husband's decisions and his thoughts, love him passionately and you will not only become the woman of your husband's dreams, but your legacy will be lived on through your children's marriages and for generations to come.

Seek God's help in honoring your husband with your words, affirmation, and actions. Be wise with all your transactions with him.
 
Prayer,
Lord, help me to honor my husband in everything I do and say. Help me to bless him by lavishing him with passionate love. Thank you. In Jesus' Name.
Power Verses:
"Do not let your adornment be merely outward-arranging the hair, wearing the gold, or putting on fine apparel-rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands." (I Peter 3:3-5 NKJ)

"Better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman." (Proverbs 21:19 NKJ)

"Admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the Word of God may not be blasphemed." (Titus 2:4 NKJ)
By Sharon Glasgow, Proverbs 31 Ministries Speaker
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When You and Your Kin Can't

"My true brother and sister and mother are those who do what God wants" (Mark 3:35).
Does Jesus have anything to say about dealing with difficult relatives? Is there an example of Jesus bringing peace to a painful family? Yes, there is. His own. It may surprise you to know that Jesus had a difficult family. If your family doesn't appreciate you, take heart, neither did Jesus'.

"His family... went to get him because they thought he was out of his mind" (Mark 3:21). Jesus' siblings thought their brother was a lunatic. They weren't proud - they were embarrassed! It's worth noting that he didn't try to control his family's behavior, nor did he let their behavior control his. He didn't demand that they agree with him. He didn't sulk when they insulted him. He didn't make it his mission to try to please them.

Each of us has a fantasy that our family will be like the Waltons, an expectation that our dearest friends will be our next of kin. Jesus didn't have that expectation. Look how he defined his family:
"My true brother and sister and mother are those who do what God wants" (Mark 3:35).

When Jesus' brothers didn't share his convictions, he didn't try to force them. He recognized that his spiritual family could provide what his physical family didn't. If Jesus himself couldn't force his family to share his convictions, what makes you think you can force yours?

Having your family's approval is desirable but not necessary for happiness and not always possible. Jesus did not let the difficult dynamic of his family overshadow his call from God. And because he didn't, this chapter has a happy ending.

What happened to Jesus' family? Mine with me a golden nugget hidden in a vein of the Book of Acts. "Then went back to Jerusalem from the Mount of Olives... They all continued praying together with some women, including Mary the mother of Jesus, and Jesus' brothers" (Acts 1:12, 14, emphasis added).

What a change! The ones who mocked him now worship him. The ones who pitied him now pray for him. What if Jesus had disowned them? Or worse still, what if he'd suffocated his family with his demand for change? He didn't. He instead gave them space, time, and grace. And because he did, they changed. How much did they change? One brother became an apostle (Galatians 1:19) and others became missionaries (1 Corinthians 9:5).
So don't lose heart. God still changes families!
This passage excerpted from "He Still Moves Stones," Max Lucado C1999.
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